Sarah Tan – Personal Development

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Expert , writes… …

Few of us walk around truly realizing how we feel in every moment. All of us understand being on automatic pilot and going through the drag of life. In fact, it can be very useful to automate our efforts. Especially if it includes finishing a repetitive project such as raking leaves or peeling potatoes. When you fall into the groove of a repetitive routine, the task can turn into a meditation. Provided you aren’t repeating a complaint or problem around in your mind, being truly present with a repetitive action can be incredibly calming and helpful. Relationship Attraction has never been more powerful with the discovery of the Law of Attraction.

Being on auto-pilot may be fine for repetitious kinds of tasks, but when it comes to meaningful creation, you want to hone in slightly more carefully to what is truly going on in your vibration. Starting some investigative work on your current vibration will assist you in seeing the areas you need to remove some resisting energy or static off the line. When you acquire a clear, uncluttered channel of energy, what you desire comes more smoothly and without the mixed bag of results you are accustomed to getting. For example, say you want a lover. You create a lover, but because you’re afraid of being fully emotionally committed, he lives half-way around the world. You may think you are emotionally capable, but if you are getting a mixed result, then you’re transmitting a mixed message. A Law of Attraction Coach can assist you in completely changing your outlook with expert life coaching.

Have a look at your firmly held beliefs. Question your inner dialog. Is it really true? Does clinging to that limiting belief help you? Can you find some of your self-sabotaging behaviors? Interestingly, most of the things we hold to be true concerning life aren’t true. They are beliefs we have inherited. Pose a question of yourself and then hone in to listen to a response. Your inner guide will allow you to see interesting insights if you’re willing to allow yourself to hear them. Law of Attraction Love Relationships are incredibly rewarding and fulfilling past your wildest dreams! Think of someone who is everything you have ever desired in a lover.

Life was originally designed for you to be a success, find happiness, and fulfilled. We all came in with perfectly untainted guiding systems pointing us in the direction of our joy and self-expression. Tune back in to your thoughts and feelings. Pick the highest and best thoughts and emotions possible. Create with a clear message and you will put yourself back in the creative cockpit of your life.

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Anywhere you go, online or retail, there are countless articles and books claiming to help you beat your problems with anger management. These information sources provide lots of techniques for learning to tame your temper. The claim is that they can help you learn to gain control of your anger before you do or say something that worsens the situation.

The problem is that some of these resources aren’t particularly effective. Anyone can claim to be an anger management expert and offer advice. However, if they don’t have the credentials to back up their advice, you can’t be sure of their credibility. Naturally, this makes some people question the usefulness of anger management techniques in general.

The answer is both yes and no. Certain criteria must be in place before an anger management class can be considered effective. Basically, you must be committed to an investment of effort and time towards putting into practice your newly learned skills.

You don’t have a chance of being successful if you’re not prepared to change your behavior. It’s essential that you carry out the techniques you have been taught. It’s not enough that your friends and family want you to overcome your problems with anger management. Real change has to come from within. That requires that you deliberately choose to change your usual reaction to certain situations. You need to be determined to replace them with the healthier skills that you have learned.

Lots of professional associations and organizations specialize in psychological issues, including anger management. Through their work over the years, they have developed methods of learning new skills that can help people overcome their anger management issues. Take a look at the website of the American Psychological Association, for example. You’ll find a lot of information there that deals specifically with anger issues.

There are lots of case studies that document the success rates of individuals with different levels of anger management issues. The association has worked with these individuals using the strategies presented on their site. The results are documented and available for anyone who is interested.

There’s a common theme among both the non profit websites and the ones that provide online anger management classes. Most of the strategies that are recommended involve relaxation and breathing techniques. Also, it’s important to back away from the situation mentally so you can think things through logically before responding. You also have to change your cognitive thinking patterns.

If you’re willing to really follow these various anger management tips, you’ll have success. Training can actually be very effective. But only if you’re prepared to work hard and implement the techniques. The reward, however, is a more peaceful, healthy and happy life.

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10 Tips To Help You Start Taking Control with Positive Thinking.

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Positive thinking will help people with ADD to better concentrate on their accomplishments and strengths, giving them more motivation and joy in life. It will help in better using your time to work on making progress, rather than feeling discouraged and helpless. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns :

1. Take Good Care of Yourself

When you take good care of yourself by eating healthy, exercising and getting adequate rest, it is much easier to be positive.

2. Make a List of the Things You are Grateful for in Life

When you take the time to remember some of the things that are good in your life, then stress from the challenges you face are not as difficult. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Don’t give in to ’making assumptions’, but instead discipline your mind to look for proof or actual facts.

A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. For instance, if you are worried or fearful that someone is in a bad mood because of something you did, or that people are secretly gossiping behind your back about you, then you should ask them if it is true or not. Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes

Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me”. Thinking and speaking in absolutes like “always” and “never”, makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Get Rid of ALL Negative Thoughts that cause Anxiety

Our thoughts determine the way we live and therefore you need to discern them and discipline yourself to overcome negative thinking. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, recognize it for what it really is and don’t follow it.

6. Squash the “ANTs”

In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts.

These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me” or “The boss wants to see me, it must be bad”! When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Begin to show your family and friends positive physical contact with a hug, smile, pat on the back or welcoming handshake.

You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Showing positive physical contact with your family and friends and even your pets, is a great ’feel good’ interaction, one that we all need in life. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. Her tips were noticeably higher from the ones she touched, then from the customers she did not touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity

Loneliness feeds on negative thinking and one way to combat it, is by increasing social activity in your life. Find people you can be with that are happy and positive in their outlook on life, then you will notice how very contagious that sort of thinking can be.

9. Be Involved with Helping Other People or Volunteer in an Organization

Once you help other people that are hurting, you will also help yourself, because you will feel good inside knowing you helped to make a positive difference in someone’s life. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. You may have heard it said, ’Give and it shall be given’, this is a true saying and the more positive energy you put in the world, the more you will get back.

10. Have a New Thought Pattern to Fight Against Depressing Thoughts.

A great way to stop thinking unconstructive thoughts is to interrupt the pattern by forcing yourself to begin thinking and doing something completely different. Begin to change your old thinking patterns of focusing on the negative. That way of thinking is never productive, but only leads to stress and unnecessary anxiety. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. Or, you could call a friend, turn on some music or look at a magazine.

Find sayings, scripture verses or quotes that will help motivate you to remain positive in your thinking, the following are some of my favorites: Oprah Winfrey – “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” “Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours” – A Swedish Proverb

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Do you always complain about not having enough time to read books? And you marvel at people who are able to read a lot even though you struggle to finish one? One simple way is to cut down one hour of television each day, just like what Jack Canfield (the Chicken Soup guy)  said, and put the time to good use.

If you are able to read one book a day, you will be able to be an expert in the field within a short period of time. For example, I’m definitely no expert in choosing wedding gowns, but due to necessity, (I’m taking my wedding photos soon), I read up on various books on how to choose a suitable one. I now know the difference between sweetheart and Contessa necklines, and which one is suitable for me.

To take this further, spend one week reading a subject that you are totally not familiar with. Break out of your comfort zone and read something different. There are plenty of Tattoos books available. For example, you can tell a kid why he must learn to colour within the lines, because that is what Tattoo artists are supposed to do. Different colours are absorbed differently by the skin, and you can use that to teach a child about colours in physics lessons.

When you break out of your comfort zone, you can learn to apply the new acquired knowledge in your current field. For example, if a person who loves to cook decides to read and learn about photography, he or she can simply bring the dishes to life through photos. Or if the person reads about architecture, he or she may be able to serve the food in amazing ways.

The first thing to do is to stop watching that extra drama serial which will suck away 20 hours of your life when you get started on it. With these 20 hours, that’s 20 hours of knowledge to be gained.

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I’m someone who strongly believes in learning from others. Many people had gone through the some problems as us, and many more faced worse tribulations in life. However, what makes these people different from us is their ability to bounce back from their failures and become extremely successful. It has to do with their mindset. Positive thinking is something that I am working hard towards.

In this website, I share whatever powerful messages I’ve learnt from books, workshops and other sources. I may not be an expert at everything yet, but I believe that with time, I will be able to achieve great success in whatever I am passionate about. This website also serves as a reminded of what I’ve learnt. The person who learns the most is the person who teaches the lessons. Hence, I hope that whatever I say here will be useful to others, and at the same time guide me to greater heights in personal development.

To find out more on how I started in personal development, do read that article.

Sarah Tan

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